How Should I Deal with My family and Life 1

I am a 23 year-old student, an animation major. I was interested in English when I was a high school student, and studied abroad to Australia. I become more interested in learning a new language and meeting people from different countries. I majored in English culture in university, and learned English language there. I studied abroad to Canada, learning English even more. In the third year, I met a book, Mastery by Robert Greene and started to think about my future and myself deeply. The book is about finding who I am and one of the most important task in life is to be who I am. I was not sure about who I was, but I knew what I loved from the past, which some kinds of arts like animation, film, music, writing and so on. I am very impressed how these artists find beauty and nature of life and translate them into their work. So, I started to go to animation school while working part-time. I am not sure I am on the right way. On the internet, or Youtube, I see others making money or gaining much attention, constantly comparing my situation and others. I feel painful to feel that way and compare myself with others. Others seem to have more talent in animation in school. At home, my parents seem very self-obsessed. My mother is obsessed with international conflict between Korea and Japan, which makes her very emotional. Her strong emotions and dramas make my life confused. I feel desperate to keep living in constant comparison with others.  

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results"

This is a good quote by someone, which cheers up us to realize that the only way to solve our problem is to change our paradigm, and  approach the problem from different angle when we are faced with a obstacle with it and stuck. 

"Refreshing the mind, when you and your opponent are engaged in combat which is dragging on with no end in sight. It is crucial to come up completely different technique. By refreshing the mind and techniques as you continue to fight your opponent. You will find an appropriate rhythm timing with which to defeat him. whenever you and your opponent become stagnant. You must immediately employ different method of dealing with him in order to overcome him. "

The book of the five rings By Miyamoto Musashi

This is a lesson and strategy from Miyamoto Musashi. In a war or battle, when I am stuck with the situation, I need to immediately think of different tactics based on the situation to overcome the situation.

We face a large number of conflicts and problems in our life. 

Most of our basic human needs are met through improvement of agricultural and technological development.

Food 

Shelter 

Clothes

It is one of the biggest paradigm shift of humanity and we started to have more control over the world. However, this created other problems we constantly face in our life and we ourselves have to deal with them.

Yes, we no longer do not have to think about these basic needs like food, shelter, clothes. We have to earn money or think about little stuff like paying bills and so on. However, the less we need to focus on these basic need, the more we focus on another need, human relationships.

Our relationships with others are much more intense and complex nowadays thorough SNS like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube.

We feel constantly connected to others, not only with our parents or friends, but much more people we do not even know around the globe through the internet.

Not only we constantly compare ourselves with our surroundings, but also we compare with those who are from around the world!!

I think one of the biggest problem we face is how to deal with people, our human nature and emotion.

Adler boldly says all the problems we face is interpersonal relationships.

How to look at them, overcome them, and deal with them will have a huge influence to us.

We need strategies if I want to solve the problem.

I do not invent them. I just borrow them from another writers.

1. Stoism 

2. Taoism

3. See people as facts

4. Compare who I was yesterday.

2019/09/28
I realized that this human nature to compare is very deeply ingrained in human nature especially in a group situation. This is a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuge problem we face in most of our life.

Strategies to deal with that is to feel belong to humanity, self-reliance and reasons.

I would like to write about them deeply